Thursday, September 6, 2012

7 Ways to Encourage Infant Social Development

As your baby grows, she will be changing a lot. She'll learn to hold up her head, sit up by herself, crawl, walk, and so much more. But she won't just be changing physically. She'll be growing mentally, emotionally, and socially as well. Your baby's need to interact with other people and to be accepted by others is just one of the steps in the direction of developing social skills. However, infant social development isn't possible without emotional and language skills. Here are seven ways that you can help to foster your baby's social development:
  1. Smile and talk to your baby - explain and describe your day-to-day activities and tasks.
  2. Touch your baby often.
  3. Encourage acceptance and approval by making eye contact often.
  4. Involve dad by letting him hold, talk to, and touch your baby.
  5. Pick up your baby when he reaches out with his arms.
  6. Encourage and boost confidence by making a fuss over little things your baby accomplishes, like asking "Where is your hand?" or telling him, "Put your foot here." Encourage and make a fuss when your child learns such things as feeding himself and using the potty successfully. This grows confidence, both in his own abilities and in others that support him. This means that by the time he reaches the age of about three, he is better able to cope with such things as nursery and other periods away from his main caretakers.
  7. Encourage self-discovery by letting him spend time in front of a mirror... your baby likes to watch and talk to the mirror image.
When your baby is an only child, it is important that his family socializes with others who have small children. They may be too small to join in play or even get down on the floor, but babies are keen observers and this helps your baby to discover that other small people exist, but he will also learn about such things as sharing and taking turns, such as when food or drink is passed around, when conversation takes place, or when people pause to allow others to speak. Some of these things can be very subtle, so the more often the baby is exposed to them, the better chance he has of learning the social skills he needs to become a positive member of the society in which he belongs.

All About Seeds

This week for our playgroup we learned about seeds.  We read a fantastic book that was very educational, and taught the children what seeds are, what they need to grow, and what those seeds end up being! The book is called All About Seeds by Susan Kuchalla.
We learned that acorns, pine cones, peach pits, nuts, and beans are all seeds.  All the plants, trees, grass, and flowers that we see in our beautiful world all start from a seed!  Plants, like people, needs certain things to grow. They need water, sunshine, and soil to grow. Ask your children what they need to grow!

Planting your own seeds is an activity every child loves to do! They especially love taking care of the seed, and watching it grow day after day.  You would be surprised at how responsible children can be--even little ones--when they can actually see that the effort they put in every day is actually doing something!  This is a great teaching tool for children to learn at a young age that when you take the time to care for something, nourish and nurture it, it will grow and flourish into something beautiful.  If you ignore and forget about it, it will quickly wilt away and die.

Making your own "Grass Friend" is simple and easy to do.

  • First you need to get a plastic cup
  • Next, decorating our grass friend is what gives it life and personality! Googly eyes are fun to glue on, and you get them at any craft store. They come in all colors and sizes. My opinion is, the bigger the better!!!
  • For the nose and mouth, the kids can draw their own on card stock, then color, cut, and paste to the cup. Or you can glue a button on for the nose, and use pipe cleaners for the mouth--or anything else that you think would work.

  • Next when the face is all put on, fill it half full with potting soil.  Next add some grass seeds. Any type of grass seeds should work, then fill the rest of the cup with more soil. Make sure you water it, and put it in some warm sunshine.  When the grass grows out long, your children can "style" their hair!! If its a girl grass friend they can put bows or ribbons in the "hair" to style it up! That's what makes this activity so fun because it lasts for so long.

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Strollers, Baby Carriers, and Infant Spinal Development

Many parents cannot conceive of life without a stroller, a car seat as a baby carrier, or both. Many pediatricians recommend that newborns and infants lay flat on their backs in a stroller and not be carried, in order to avoid pressure on their underdeveloped bodies. However, laying an infant on her back in a stroller is actually more physically and emotionally stressful. It can also inhibit some types of physical development. Being carried or worn (in a baby sling, etc.) with proper support is not only developmentally sound but often preferable for both the baby and the mother. Upright carrying optimizes the physical, emotional, and intellectual growth of your baby.

The human spine is not perfectly straight, though it might seem that way from the front or the back. When viewed from the side, the spine is shown to have four slight curves, resulting in an elongated "S" shape. These curves help us to maintain flexibility and balance, as well as absorb the physical stress placed on our body and our spine throughout the day.

We are not born with these curves, though. They develop gradually as a result of our body responding and adapting to gravity. At birth, babies are in a state of flexion, meaning that their spines form a natural long c-shaped (convex) curve, indicated by the red line in the picture below.

Initially, a baby doesn't have the strength or the balancing spinal curves necessary to hold up his head. But as his neck muscles get stronger, he will begin to lift his head against gravity and a curve will start to develop in his neck (the cervical curve) to help balance his head.
Later, as he begins to crawl around and pull himself up into a standing position, a curve in the lower back (lumbar curve) and the muscles that support his back will begin to develop as well.
Laying your infant flat on her back stretches the spine out of its natural curved shape and into a straight line. Not only is this stressful to her spine, but it can also negatively impact the development of her hip joints. It has also been shown to cause plagiocephaly (deformed skull, flattened on the back or side; generally requires a helmet to correct and reshape the head) and deformed bodies with poor muscle tone.
Though carseats help to maintain the spine's original convex shape, they can actually prevent the formation of natural curves and the development of muscle tone. Though the seats do support the baby's head and neck, they prevent her from using her own muscles to hold up her head. This can be a serious problem, as many babies spend the majority of the day in a carseat or stroller. (We are NOT suggesting that baby carriers should replace carseats for transport while inside the car. Never drive or carry your baby in a baby carrier while in a moving vehicle.)

When an infant is held upright, however, she is able to practice various compensatory movements, enhancing muscular strength and allowing fro more control over her gross and fine motor skills. When the mother walks, stops, or turns, the infant's body naturally works against the pull of gravity to maintain her upright position.

If this is the case, why do some still insist that the horizontal position is so much better for your infant, in spite of all of the evidence to the contrary? This assumption might stem from their acquaintance with the upright carriers of the 80's and 90's, with their typical lack of head/neck support, tight or chafing leg holes, and have no leg support, resembling a parachute harness more than a device for carrying a tender newborn. Perhaps they have seen so many babies facing outwards when carried upright that they assume all carriers are non-supportive. Such carriers do not provide the proper leg support, and can cause the pelvis to tilt backwards and place them in the dangerous "hollow back" (concave) position indicated by the red line in the image below.
When facing outwards, their center of gravity is off. Pressure is placed on the baby's shoulders and chest area, often pulling the shoulders back and hollowing the back even more. It also places pressure on the base of the spine and on the inner thighs of the infant, and is very stressful on an infant's body.

How, then, should you carry your infant? When an infant is carried, he should be oriented toward his mother. Ideally, the fabric of the baby carrier should extend to the back of his knee (or have footstraps), which appropriately positions the pelvis and spine. Upright baby carriers that support the legs, carrying a baby as a mother naturally would in arms, does not compromise a baby's spine or hips. A mother, using either her arms or a simple piece of cloth, supports her baby's legs in a flexed (with the knees bent) abducted (legs spread apart) position supporting the hip and spine. Instead of fabric at the crotch (which contributes no leg support) or swaddling the legs (which is too restrictive), ergonomic carriers put the baby in the position that supports his legs the way his mother's arms would. This is the position that infants are hardwired to assume when they are picked up.
Carrying an infant in this manner also fosters secure emotional attachment and cognitive development. It allows the baby the opportunity to learn about language, facial expression, his environment, and more because of his position and his proximity to his mother. They feel more secure and are more alert when placed in this upright position. Far from spoiling the child or creating a "tyrant", you will fulfill the infant's need for touch, closeness, and warmth.
In summary, laying babies flat on their backs in a stroller or restricted in a car seat is not better for their necks, spines, hips, or their minds. Nature intended for babies to be carried. Upright positioning with proper leg support is the most desirable position for your infant and is gentle enough not to physically stress even tiny babies. By holding baby close to her heart, a mother will not only be choosing the most beneficial and physically supportive method of bringing baby along with her, she will be providing the optimal environment for the infant's psychological and emotional growth as well.

Information taken from: http://www.bobafamily.com/research/strollers-baby-carriers-and-infant-stress/

Monday, August 27, 2012

Sleep in the First Year



Sleep!  It's one of those things that parents tend to obsess over--which is understandable.  I mean, who wouldn't be obsessed when the only chance YOU get to sleep is when the BABY is sleeping!

So how much sleep should your baby be getting?  Are your expectations of baby maybe a little bit too high?

While your baby should be your best guide to figuring out how much sleep he needs, here is an awesome chart to give you at least an idea of the average hours of sleep babies need during their first year:



Daytime sleep hours, obviously, come in the form of naps, and the number of naps can vary from child to child.  Nighttime sleep hours, unfortunately, also don't always happen in one uninterrupted period (especially in the first months!).  Your child's sleep needs can be very different from other children, even children who are the same age as your child!  Your best bet is, as always, to learn from your child. You'll know you're doing it right when your child is happy and well rested!

Information taken from Feber Re Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems. New York 1985, Simon & Schuster, Inc.

Friday, August 10, 2012

Picture Book for Baby


Tomorrow I am taking my 8 month old baby to Arkansas.  Between the drives to and from airports, a lay over in Texas, and the two flights, it's going to be at least 8 hours of travel time.

I've got to admit, I'm a tiny bit terrified.

See, my baby has just gotten to the point where she is extremely proficient at crawling and has realized that she can go where ever she wants if she climbs enough.  I've been spending the last few days searching all over for something to keep her from turning the plane into a jungle-gym (or to keep her from turning into a banshee when she realizes that we won't let her!)

My first idea was to get her a couple of new little toys that we can get out during all our traveling, so we bought a couple of things to keep in my diaper bag, but I'm just not sure that will last long enough.  Then, yesterday I noticed that my daughter loves turning pages.  She has a hard time with board books because they stick and she has a hard time getting the pages apart with her little fingers most of the time.  We have given her (sacrificed) a couple of regular paper books to let her "read" and she likes catalogs, but they always end up thrashed in a matter of minutes.  What I noticed yesterday, was that she spent almost 30 minutes flipping through the pages of our family scrapbook (it probably would have been more if I hadn't gotten tired of trying to rescue all my pictures!).  So, the brilliant idea struck me, why not make her own "scrapbook"?  So that is how this project was born.

This is great for babies who are working on their fine motor skills, also for younger babies who just want to look at pretty pictures while you turn the pages.  If you have an older child, this is a great creative process for them to be a part of as they make their very own picture book!



What you'll need:
  • A cheap binder and sheet protectors
OR
  •  A small photo book, this is great for a more travel friendly version (you can sometimes get these at the dollar store)
  • Card stock (you can use white, or different colors for some variety)
  • A couple of magazines, ads, or other pictures. I like to use family oriented magazines, since they have the most kid friendly pictures, but you can find interesting things everywhere!
  • Scissors
  • double sided tape or a glue stick
How to assemble:
  • First step, go through your magazines and ads and pull out all the pictures you want.  If you have an older child they can choose their own pictures and even help cut them out (if you trust them with scissors!).
  • Next, you can trim all the pictures down so they look nicer (or if your child is making her own, let her cut the pictures however she wants!)
  • Once I have all my pictures cut out (I honestly just find any and all pictures that look interesting) I like to arrange them all on my pages before I start securing them with glue or tape, but that's just my creative process ;)
  • Use your double sided tape or glue stick to fix your pictures to the pages to make some awesome collages!
  • When your pages are done, simply slip them into the sheet protectors and assemble your binder!
  • Just an extra step, if you'd like, you can either print a page with your child's name on it (you can get pretty fancy with this), or even just make a special collage to go right on the front!



Here are some of my incredibly creative and exciting pages:






Enjoy!!!