Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Toddler Tantrums

We all have our good days and we all have our bad times. Sometimes those bad times seem like they are going to last forever, or at least for the next year. Here are some ways to help you deal with your toddlers temper tantrums. Hopefully these suggestions will help you get through those terrible twos.

  • Make sure your child isn't acting up simply because he or she isn't getting enough attention. To a child, negative attention (a parent's response to a tantrum) is better than no attention at all. Try to establish a habit of catching your child being good ("time in"), which means rewarding your little one with attention for positive behavior.
  • Try to give toddlers some control over little things. This may fulfill the need for independence and ward off tantrums. Offer minor choices such as "Do you want orange juice or apple juice?" or "Do you want to brush your teeth before or after taking a bath?" This way, you aren't asking "Do you want to brush your teeth now?" — which inevitably will be answered "no."
  • Keep off-limits objects out of sight and out of reach to make struggles less likely to develop over them. Obviously, this isn't always possible, especially outside of the home where the environment can't be controlled.
  • Distract your child. Take advantage of your little one's short attention span by offering a replacement for the coveted object or beginning a new activity to replace the frustrating or forbidden one. Or simply change the environment. Take your toddler outside or inside or move to a different room.
  • Set the stage for success when kids are playing or trying to master a new task. Offer age-appropriate toys and games. Also, start with something simple before moving on to more challenging tasks.
  • Consider the request carefully when your child wants something. Is it outrageous? Maybe it isn't. Choose your battles; accommodate when you can.
  • Know your child's limits. If you know your toddler is tired, it's not the best time to go grocery shopping or try to squeeze in one more errand.
For more information please visit: http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/tantrums.html#


  1. This comment has been removed by the author.

  2. I just found your site. It looks like you have quite a bit of good information! Tempert tantrums are really about one thing: validation. Parents should not try to reason with a child who is in the middle of a tantrum..they won't hear you! You can get a free guide to eliminate tempert tantrums at http://myparentingcoach.com/116-2/the-1-secret-to-positive-parenting/